A lot about being sexy is not only your look, but your attitude about that look. When I say attitude, I am not talking about overly confident or cocky, but just enough playful flirt mixed with sass in order to be sexy.
Below are some ways to be sexy whether you are a guy or gal.
Wear it light. Make sure your cologne or perfume is on just a touch so the person has to get near you to smell; the fragrant will make then a fan.
Bite your Lip. Walk past the person you are interested in, turn around to look back and lightly bite your lip at the same time. Make light eye contact.
Less is more: For the ladies this means makeup. You should enhance your features not try to hide the flaws. For men this means what you wear. A stylish coat is good, but when you pair that with a vest and a fedora it is too much. We like your style simple and not more complex than our own.
Let go.We have all been hurt by some past lover or relationship, but in order to be sexy you have to let go of the past and move towards the future.No one wants to hear about your ex!
Social. I don’t mean your game or the way you talk. When talking less is more. Just smile and act social. You need to listen after you ask questions. Let them elaborate without interrupting with additional questions. Be careful with your expressions to their answers because your expressions say everything. And be interesting!
Lock it up. Be confident in your body and your mind. Sit up straight and carry yourself tall, even if you are only 5’2”.
Walking into the office today I ran into a guy that had a vase filled with roses and lilies.
A woman commented, “Lucky lady.” He responded, “I am lucky to have her.”
A woman’s heart instantly melts when you remind her how much she means to you.
This chivalrous act leads me to contemplate the little things that we forget in our relationships. To be thankful and gracious for every day that we get to spend our lives with someone we love so much.
Make sure to do little nothings to remind the one you are with how much you appreciate them in your life. The rest will work itself out, after we appreciate the love we have.
In a relationship positive attitudes and actions are contagious.
The UFC fights wrapped up with a win from Jones this weekend, but what does boxing have to do with our relationships?
If you give up every time you have a fight with someone, you wouldn’t be with someone very long. It was a fight, you deal with it and you move on.
Have you ever had a relationship where you broke up and you figure the relationship is over and repairing it would be tough?
Honestly, these break-ups don’t necessarily mean that you should not be with the other person, but that you need to learn how to maneuver. Learn not to throw the boxing gloves out every time that you loose a match. In the boxing ring you need endurance and we have to learn how to maneuver and shift with the other person. This is the same in a relationship and the more times we butt heads the easier the future battles will be. We need to learn to maneuver with one another.
Here are some quick tips to harboring good communication and limiting disagreements:
Take deep breaths when things get heated and don’t respond immediately
Don’t blame the other person
Listen, Listen, Listen!
Don’t argue with opinions, they are merely opinions
Listen without frustration or anger in your movements and voice
Solutions to problems are rarely immediate and easy. Having effective means of communication during the problem periods can make resolution more possible and quicker.
Ask your partner what makes them feel better after or during a disagreement. If your partner needs to walk away for fifteen minutes then come back to talk, let them have that time. If they need a hug and a seated mutual discussion on set of the issue, try that.
When there are two parties involved it is important that each person knows how to make the other feel better after or during a disagreement. You can use these ways to ensure that issues and topics are discussed rather than argued and fought about.
Men, we try very hard to sit with you during sporting events. We support you in your endeavours with work, and we foster relationships with your friends. It is not the dream of Zac Efron sweeping us off our feet, but having an intimate evening with you, along with a made-up story that makes the world stop for one moment. If this doesn’t convince you, maybe the steamy sex scenes and war fighting will help harbor the mood this Friday when your girlfriend asks you to attend the movies with her to see The Lucky One.
In light of the 12 secret service agents that recently got caught with prostitutes, what better time to address the hyper-sexuality of our culture.
A hypersexual individual is one that is excessively interested or involved in sexual activity. Our culture makes little effort in openly discussing sexuality and sex. We went to extremes in the 60s heightening sexuality, and by the 80s it was something we rarely discussed. In the 50s it was something that was shared and intimate.
Some high school programs that exist today don’t help our culture to foster communication about sex. Abstinence only programs don’t discuss issues and in turn make the hypersexual culture flourish. It doesn’t have to be the burden of the school to teach the students about sex and sexuality, but should be that of the parents.
Sex is glorified through pornography giving a skewed perception of what ones sex life should look like. It is important that couples can speak openly within their relationship about their concerns, likes and dislikes with sex. Communication is a struggle in relationships, and talking about something that has a stigma as well as hyper-cultural content can make this communication hindered even more.
Talk to you partner and learn good ways to communicate verbally and physically.
How do you foster communication about sex in your relationship?
Talk openly about sex, expectations, and feelings
Understand that the cultural norm for sexualizing women isn’t the norm
Get comfortable in your own sexuality so you can communicate about it to your partner
In my article “When do You move in Together?” I address the issue of cohabitation in relationships; highlighting things to consider when thinking about moving in together. But what do the experts say about living together before marriage? In a recent article done by the New York Times the author highlights surveys and experience. A survey done by the National Marriage Project gave results that 2/3’s of 20 something year olds believe that living together before they are married is a good way to avoid divorce down the road.
Men and woman have different ideas associated with reasons why they live together. Women typically see it as a step towards marriage, while men tend to view it as a way to test the relationship or to postpone more commitment. Communication becomes key here; understand each other’s reasons for wanting to move in together. It is not that cohabitation definitely leads to divorce, but that people who move in together before marriage have less conventional ideas about marriage. People who cohabited tend to be less satisfied with their marriages. But why? I believe we just get ahead of ourselves. We tend to think that enjoying things quicker means that we will enjoy them more. Studies show that patience and taking time in the relationship yields better results with overall relationship happiness.
“I don’t like games.” How many times have you said this yourself or heard someone else say it? This seems to be a common statement from people who are making their way back into the dating world, usually after a not-so-great dating experience. Are you free of playing a role in the games or do you fall victim to games being played in your relationships?
Sometimes we have to look into our past and decide if games are something we have a tendency to be pulled towards or to act out ourselves.
There are some indications that we are on strong defense because of past wounds. Our inability to move forward can be seen in typical statements and actions.
These statements include:
Women are crazy
Men are jerks
I don’t trust people
We are making general blanket statements about people, instead of giving each new person the benefit of acceptance and trust.
The actions include:
Staying with people who treat you badly in any way, including physical and emotional
Constantly reaching out to partners that don’t put in as much time and effort as you
Wanting people who don’t feel the same about you
Find your strengths in relationships and build on those. We need to recognize our need for games and conflict and find resolve for that. Addressing it from past inventory and existence in current relationships can help us move forward seeking positive fulfilling relationships.
Vince Vaughn explains the awkwardness of dating best in the beginning of Wedding Crashers
Although this comedy eludes that avoiding the situation is better, what about those of us who do date? When is the proper time to make the first move or to kiss someone?
Subtle Touching: This is a great way to have someone read the situation correctly. Light touching, hand-holding, sitting close to someone, or making a point to be near that person can make the situation less awkward and more comfortable for both parties.
Formal Date: Once you take out the person on a formal date, this would be an appropriate time to go in for a kiss. Hanging out can be misconstrued, but if a girl or guy accepts a formal invitation for a date, it is a good indication that she would invite a goodnight kiss.
Ask and Tell: Let the person know you are interested if you are not great with physical cues. It is better to get shot down or share an awkward situation than it is to have the other person be taken by a guy or girl who can make a move.
The Two-Month Rule: Some people, especially women, like the man to make the first move. In today’s dating world we get caught up in hanging out and become too informal to read cues that would have been easily read if we were courting. A mildly aggressive nature is something woman tend to appreciate in men. After all, we want someone to protect us and look after us. If you have been hanging out with a guy and it’s coming on two-months without him making the first move, I’d cut your losses. The two-month rule will ensure that you are with a man who can take a hint and the wheel. If you don’t to cut your losses, it is up to you to make the move. If this is not in either of your natures, you are possibly going to have a hard time with open communication down the road.
There is etiquette that needs to be taken into consideration when texting. Let’s go over some of the simple guidelines when texting.
Tone. It is always important to remember that texts only have the tones that you give them. It is more appropriate to try to keep a neutral mind when trying to impart a tone onto a text.
The smiley face. This is a good indication when tone can be misconstrued by the person receiving the text. It says, “Hey, I am having a good time in this conversation and it is not being taken out of context.”
! The exclamation point. Some people really like to end their sentences this way. If it is used sparingly, take it as the individual being excited about said situation, such as hanging out with you soon. But don’t read into a person that !’s all the time. They are ‘just not that into you’ just because they ! you most of the time.
The winky face. This is much like poking someone on Facebook. It is a way to elude to someone that you are interested. Be careful in utilizing the with someone that you are not into. Make sure that you don’t someone who you wouldn’t go out with on an actual date.