A lot about being sexy is not only your look, but your attitude about that look.  When I say attitude, I am not talking about overly confident or cocky, but just enough playful flirt mixed with sass in order to be sexy.

Below are some ways to be sexy whether you are a guy or gal.

Physically Sexy:

• Wear it light.  Make sure your cologne or perfume is on just a touch so the person has to get near you to smell; the fragrant will make then a fan.
• Bite your Lip.  Walk past the person you are interested in, turn around to look back and lightly bite your lip at the same time.  Make light eye contact.
• Less is more: For the ladies this means makeup.  You should enhance your features not try to hide the flaws.  For men this means what you wear.  A stylish coat is good, but when you pair that with a vest and a fedora it is too much.  We like your style simple and not more complex than our own.

Sexy Behaviors:

• Let go. We have all been hurt by some past lover or relationship, but in order to be sexy you have to let go of the past and move towards the future.  No one wants to hear about your ex!
• Social.  I don’t mean your game or the way you talk.  When talking less is more.   Just smile and act social.  You need to listen after you ask questions.  Let them elaborate without interrupting with additional questions. Be careful with your expressions to their answers because your expressions say everything.  And be interesting!
• Lock it up.  Be confident in your body and your mind. Sit up straight and carry yourself tall, even if you are only 5’2”.

Men, we try very hard to sit with you during sporting events.  We support you in your endeavours with work, and we foster relationships with your friends.  It is not the dream of Zac Efron sweeping us off our feet, but having an intimate evening with you, along with a made-up story that makes the world stop for one moment. If this doesn’t convince you, maybe the steamy sex scenes and war fighting will help harbor the mood this Friday when your girlfriend asks you to attend the movies with her to see The Lucky One.

In my article “When do You move in Together?” I address the issue of cohabitation in relationships; highlighting things to consider when thinking about moving in together.  But what do the experts say about living together before marriage?  In a recent article done by the New York Times the author highlights surveys and experience.  A survey done by the National Marriage Project gave results that 2/3’s of 20 something year olds believe that living together before they are married is a good way to avoid divorce down the road.

Men and woman have different ideas associated with reasons why they live together. Women typically see it as a step towards marriage, while men tend to view it as a way to test the relationship or to postpone more commitment.  Communication becomes key here; understand each other’s reasons for wanting to move in together.  It is not that cohabitation definitely leads to divorce, but that people who move in together before marriage have less conventional ideas about marriage.   People who cohabited tend to be less satisfied with their marriages. But why?  I believe we just get ahead of ourselves.  We tend to think that enjoying things quicker means that we will enjoy them more.  Studies show that patience and taking time in the relationship yields better results with overall relationship happiness.

Vince Vaughn explains the awkwardness of dating best in the beginning of Wedding Crashers

Although this comedy eludes that avoiding the situation is better, what about those of us who do date?  When is the proper time to make the first move or to kiss someone? 

Subtle Touching: This is a great way to have someone read the situation correctly.  Light touching, hand-holding, sitting close to someone, or making a point to be near that person can make the situation less awkward and more comfortable for both parties.

Formal Date: Once you take out the person on a formal date, this would be an appropriate time to go in for a kiss.  Hanging out can be misconstrued, but if a girl or guy accepts a formal invitation for a date, it is a good indication that she would invite a goodnight kiss.

Ask and Tell: Let the person know you are interested if you are not great with physical cues.  It is better to get shot down or share an awkward situation than it is to have the other person be taken by a guy or girl who can make a move.

The Two-Month Rule: Some people, especially women, like the man to make the first move.  In today’s dating world we get caught up in hanging out and become too informal to read cues that would have been easily read if we were courting.  A mildly aggressive nature is something woman tend to appreciate in men.  After all, we want someone to protect us and look after us.  If you have been hanging out with a guy and it’s coming on two-months without him making the first move, I’d cut your losses.  The two-month rule will ensure that you are with a man who can take a hint and the wheel.  If you don’t to cut your losses, it is up to you to make the move.  If this is not in either of your natures, you are possibly going to have a hard time with open communication down the road.