There are numerous reasons why your friends rarely end up with starring roles in your relationships. As much as people tell themselves that they can remain unattached, it is the complexity of any kind of relationship that makes this difficult. Someone will always get hurt.
And need I remind you the real reason that all these individuals wanted to have relationships based on sex was because they didn’t really understand themselves in the content of relationships. They had some emotional damage from a previous relationship that brought them to believe being an unattached jerk would actually make them feel better. It doesn’t.
“It is not who you want to spend Friday night with, it is who you want to spend all day Saturday with.”
If you are scared of commitment, wasting time with someone you don’t actually have feelings for is only taking away from the time you could spend with the person you dream about and deserve.
Being scared of relationships will not bring the right people around, and being scared of commitment will only ruin the possibilities of securing a potential life long partner. Sure, spending some time alone after a break up can be good for you. But life and love might not look exactly like the Romantic Hollywood movies, they won’t be the some grand idea of your friends’ relationships. They will only belong to you.
The Cynical Therapist came to be when two therapists became friends. SoulMates or Kindered Spirit Animals… Call us what you will…. We are two bad*** chics Licensed to teach you how to grow into your full potential and add some humor along the way.
Laurie Wilson and Elle Anzalone are both Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist practicing in Huntington Beach, CA.