This site began as a way for readers to explore their dating and romantic relationship patterns. After over a year of reading, research, and writing, the site hit a kind of “block”. It was not a block from a lack of information about how to understand your romantic relationships.
As the author, I realized the site’s information could benefit readers in some instances but something was missing. Discussions of all the other relationships in our lives was missing. These relationships help form how we go about our romantic relationships; they form how our children will go about theirs. Relationships with our parents, grandparents, care-givers, peers, friends, children, co-workers, or people we interact with all matter. Over the years I have heard many people ask “What do you do for a living?” It is our conversation go-to to get to know someone.
The most appropriate answer to that question may be, “I am in relationship with other people.” But what does that mean? What is the importance of having happy and healthy relationships?
I have heard people say “It is healthy to fight.” Is that the real view of how things should be in relationships? Is the new norm to fight? Whether with our friends, family, or significant others, what are relationships “supposed” to look like?
Join me as we explore Relationships of all types this upcoming year!
2 responses to “Relationships”
In college, I took a class with a professor who was from Spain. He said that when he moved to the U.S. some co-workers invited him over for dinner, which he thought was weird because he didn’t even know them. At dinner, the hosts asked this Spanish professor a thousand questions…”Where are you from?” “What was it like there?” “What did you do for a living?” “What is the economy like, over there?” “What do your parents do for a living?” The professor said, “It was like a fricken interview!” He thought to himself, “is this how Americans make friends? By asking for each others’ life stories?” He explained that in Spain, people became friends by enjoying each others’ company, not by knowing everything about each other. His commentary made me realize that Americans (I can’t speak for any other country) may have a profound misunderstanding of how to have warm, enriching relationships.
That is a great story! For example, social media outlets, such as facebook are less of a way to keep in touch with each other and more of a way to gather information on people. I learned that from a wise professor of mine.