How to Approach Someone You’re Interested In

 

This was derived by happenings in my life this morning.  I was at the gas station before work.  I wasn’t  looking very sexy as I have had a cold and needless to say it is also making me a bit irritable.  So I pass this guy who is with a friend and he proceeds to hang out of the driver seat window and yell, “Hey girl, what’s up.”  Not only is this kind of hitting on someone completely appalling to a girl, it comes close to the behavior of a dog.  You want to act like one and that shock collar might be the next best thing for you.  So in a world where bad “hitting habits” take place, let’s look at the right way to approach someone you are interested in.

 

Let’s recap the bad. You don’t “hollar” at someone out the window of your car.  You don’t yell at someone to get their attention, it’s plain rude.

So how can you talk to someone subtly and sneak in a way to hit on them? It’s about sparking up a conversation that can lead into asking someone for their phone number.  If you are a social person starting conversations may come easy to you.  If you happen to be shy, start trying with other people.  Begin a conversation with a stranger in the grocery store and try it out.  Josh Duhamel’s character, Messer, in Life As We Know It, does a great job showing how hitting on someone is an art.  He hits on Katherine Heigl’s character at the supermarket.  He subtly picks up an item and asks her how to say a word.  She replies, that it is Acai.  He compliments, “Wow you must really have an ear for languages.”  She is flattered and it goes from there.  So take note from Josh and try these rules of engagement:

 

1. Find a way in. Whether you are at a bookstore, in line at Starbucks, in a class together, or at a bar find something that you can inquire about or discuss.  Ask about a book.  Ask a question in class.  Find a subtle way to make contact with the person without coming on to strong.

2. Compliment.  After engaging in a conversation with the person about what got you “the way in” find something to compliment that goes along with it.  An example is: “That book looks interesting (the way in), you must also be a great writer.” (Don’t make this compliment too much.  It needs to be subtle and not too direct.  You are very intelligent or you are beautiful are too vague and it lacks real motivation).  It needs to equate to something more than a blanket statement you could use with anyone.  Give the other person an opening to talk about themselves.

3. Don’t over do it. Be yourself.  There is nothing less attractive than someone who tries too hard.  Even if you are awkward and can’t get it completely right, that can be somewhat attractive in itself.

Some advice:

1. Always call the person the first time you want to make plans with them.  Do not text.

2. Make sure to be gracious and thankful when someone else is footing the bill.

3. Don’t Facebook stalk.  Get to know the person as a person, not their profile page.

Happy Hunting! 

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