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The Cynical Therapist came to be when two therapists became friends. SoulMates or Kindered Spirit Animals… Call us what you will…. We are two bad*** chics Licensed to teach you how to grow into your full potential and add some humor along the way.
Laurie Wilson and Elle Anzalone are both Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist practicing in Huntington Beach, CA.

True Leaders are Rare

We might excuse managers, executives or bosses who treat us unkind because of their power position.  When your directors are insensitive or cruel, this is a difficult spot to be in.  Innovative work environments establish a collaborative team, managers included.  But how do you know if you are working for a true leader or a boss? …

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Synthetic Social Engagement

We often walk around in a fog. A fog that is accompanied by hand-held consumer items such as Starbucks coffee and smart phones. A fog that exists because it is easy and convenient.  It comes to us with ease but it carries a heavy price.  We feel connected but we aren’t.   It’s only synthetic social…

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What Abuse Tells Me

Deep breaths. Deep breaths. Deep breaths.   Now hug her back.   The sniffling stops and she looks up at me. Does she feel it too?   I have often said that being sexually abused as a child becomes a wet jean jacket as an adult. As long as I stand there very still and…

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To Have and To Hold

I recently attended the wedding of a great friend.  This beautiful event was supported by a spectacular venue, decorations, and charming dresses.  And most importantly, loving people.  As the event began, the pastor took her spot under an elegant wood arch aligned with flowers.  She opened with a speech to remind the audience, friends and…

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Banter and Buzz Kill

“In the absence of information, we fill in the blanks with our imagination.”  -Dave Let me tell you the story of my best friend, Dave.  I met Dave at a Denny ‘s on Walnut street in Bloomington, Indiana.  I was a doe-eyed freshman in college and he was approaching his sophomore year.  Winter time had just…

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Losing Hope, Winning Grace

Today, I am going to share a personal story.  It feels like an important personal story.   About five months ago I began struggling with depression.  Five months ago, I began struggling with depression, again.  These feelings and symptoms were not new to me; lack of motivation, low energy, difficulty getting out of bed in the morning,…

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Lessons of a Mindful Life

When you stop comparing or expecting you begin to see the world for its beauty.  You walk more slowly and you love more fully.  You learn that we are humans and that we need one another.  You learn that fear is really what drives all your worries and that hope is what drives your purpose.…

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