I sat with my roommate and her boyfriend today as we chatted about the first of 30 posts. That first was going to be on the topic of motivation. As my motivation for writing decreased I began to wonder how I would strike up drive each day for 30 days in order to finish the task of writing into the New Year. Writing about motivation today seemed ironic. I sat watching old Friends reruns and ate a Hershey’s bar as I pondered, what drives us to accomplish things?
Then half a Hershey’s Bar later, I figured out some of the keys to motivation: Accountability, Inspiration, Humor, and Amy.
Accountability: I was accountable to each and every reader to write one post for 30 days and by announcing it, I was holding myself to a standard to be accountable to myself and others. Accountability is different from goals. Goals are often measurable, but accountability is part of our ethical beings.
Inspiration: I often read articles and watch video clips to get ideas flowing. We can be inspired by stories, people, or other’s motivation. Inspiration is a way to provide a jump-start to motivation.
Humor: Keep laughing. No one can be motivated by the actual lemons life tends to give us. So if you can keep laughing, you tend to be able to keep going.
Amy: (Insert your desired friend here). Amy is my little sister and best friend, whom has been a hero of mine for a long time. When I am too emotional about something, I know she will be the voice of reason. She has always taken initiative and does so with so much humor and grace that I am honored to have her in my life. Having someone in your life who can be your pseudo-rational self in emotional times is essential. Motivation takes place in ration, emotional states leave us crippled and jaded.
If I hadn’t understood my ability to search for my motivation, you would not be reading this post. I’d be an unhappy, unaccomplished writer with a candy wrapper and a second season of Friends playing. Motivation doesn’t just happen, it needs to be promoted. Accountability, inspiration, humor, and being surrounded by good people are essential. Motivation is not intrinsic. You have to work for it.
Have you ever been in a relationship where your friends don’t like your partner?
What can you do when your partner and your friends are not getting along?
There is not much you can do to change someone’s opinion of the other person. It is important to note whether this is a reoccurring theme with a lot of your friends or if it is just one friend. Multiple friends not liking your significant other might be a sign that your friends are seeing something in this person that you can’t. Sometimes the outside opinion of others can be what we need when we are so emotionally invested.
If this in not the case, you should talk to your friend and find out what needs to change for them to get along. If your partner is a good catch they will do everything they can to have a good relationship with your friends, especially the friends that are most important in your life. If your friends are good friends, they will also do everything they can to be pleasant to your significant other.
You can’t ignore tension between your partner and your friends. In the end, this doesn’t work. We need healthy relationships that compliment our romantic relationships.