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What You Just Can’t Know Until Your 30’s

As I approach 30, I can’t help but feel more and more happiness.  I am so excited about getting older that when people ask me how old I am, I keep telling them, “I am going to be 30.”  (I even realized the other day that I find a way to work in the age conversation just so I can tell people).

So, I thought I would share some of my recent thoughts on this time in my life.  Your 20’s are for being clumsy.  I call it the 20’s learning curve.  But cheers to my cohorts who are leaving that learning curve for what our parents, teachers, relatives, and elders always wanted to train us for…… Life.

What You Just Can’t Know Until Your 30’s:

you should …love then adore

moderate don’t binge 

don’t get fixated on the newest fad (feng shui zumba hot (I mean super hot) backwards upside-down yoga)

fall for someone then enjoy security 

fight but stay 

date then marry 

gossip but only in compliments

stop complaining and love: your body, your mind, your spirit, and yourself 

listen then talk: no seriously, just listen for a long number of minutes, think, then talk 

learn then live

hurt but don’t blame 

when the grass looks greener on the other side, just stop looking at the other side

enjoy freedom, but not until you establish discipline 

lose and let go


A is For Accountability and Amy

I sat with my roommate and her boyfriend today as we chatted about the first of 30 posts.  That first was going to be on the topic of motivation.  As my motivation for writing decreased I began to wonder how I would strike up drive each day for 30 days in order to finish the task of writing into the New Year.  Writing about motivation today seemed ironic.  I sat watching old Friends reruns and ate a Hershey’s bar as I pondered, what drives us to accomplish things?

Then half a Hershey’s Bar later,figured out some of the keys to motivation: Accountability, Inspiration, Humor, and Amy.  

Accountability: I was accountable to each and every reader to write one post for 30 days and by announcing it, I was holding myself to a standard to be accountable to myself and others. Accountability is different from goals.  Goals are often measurable, but accountability is part of our ethical beings.

Inspiration: I often read articles and watch video clips to get ideas flowing.  We can be inspired by stories, people, or other’s motivation.  Inspiration is a way to provide a jump-start to motivation.

Humor: Keep laughing.  No one can be motivated by the actual lemons life tends to give us.  So if you can keep laughing, you tend to be able to keep going.

Amy: (Insert your desired friend here).  Amy is my little sister and best friend, whom has been a hero of mine for a long time. When I am too emotional about something, I know she will be the voice of reason.  She has always taken initiative and does so with so much humor and grace that I am honored to have her in my life. Having someone in your life who can be your pseudo-rational self in emotional times is essential.  Motivation takes place in ration, emotional states leave us crippled and jaded.

If I hadn’t understood my ability to search for my motivation, you would not be reading this post.  I’d be an unhappy, unaccomplished writer with a candy wrapper and a second season of Friends playing. Motivation doesn’t just happen, it needs to be promoted.  Accountability, inspiration, humor, and being surrounded by good people are essential.   Motivation is not intrinsic.  You have to work for it.