– Mohandas K. Gandhi
Gandhi was a wise man. The power of language and our thoughts will influence our feelings and actions. Think about it. Three things often go together; our actions, our feelings, and our thoughts. What you say or do has the power to dictate how you feel or think about something. Our mindset can influence our emotions. How cool is that? We can influence our emotions.
One of the greatest lessons I have learned and now teach, is that have influence in how we feel about things. That puts us in a better mindset for coping with struggles or maintaining successes.
Here are some quick tips to enlisting this new positive standard into your language.
1. Say goodbye to words like can’t, don’t, and shouldn’t.
2. Be cautious with always, never, all and none (extreme words make us feel defeated).
3. Use Self-Affirmations (I am good the way I am, I am happy, I am successful).
4. Eliminate self-loathing. Try to give yourself grace. When we feel poorly or have poor feelings about ourselves it leaks into other aspects of our lives. Notice what is going on with yourself but try not to judge it. I often tell people to use the word, just. This is just a setback. I am just working through something. When you take away the power of words, you take away the power they have over you, your thoughts, and your feelings.
5. Take non-judgmental stances. The more we critics others, the harder it is to have positive words. When we take negative stances on things, ideas, or people it rises our emotions for worse. Criticism is for worse. When we take a positive or neutral stance it is for better. Inspire and encourage others, listening and be non-judgemental.
6. Reconnect with yourself. We live in a busy, beautiful world. It is important to find clarity in your heart and mind to practice a positive mindset and incorporate them as a part of your life.
Gandhi was a wise man, and he was also a practicing man. You have to practice and incorporate ways to be mindful in your every day life. The power of positive takes practice and patience. You have the power to inspire and influence.
“Keep your thoughts positive because your thoughts become your words. Keep your words positive because your words become your behavior. Keep your behavior positive because your behavior becomes your habits. Keep your habits positive because your habits become your values. Keep your values positive because your values become your destiny.”
Mohandas K. Gandhi
Gandhi was a wise man. This article will focus on the words portion of that quote. Using more hopeful language can help you become positive in many aspects of your life. The power of language and the thoughts behind them influence our feelings and actions. They are influenced through subconscious and conscious means. Understanding why is much less important to me than showing you how new words can change those feelings and actions.
What if I told you that eliminating negative feelings you have about yourself is as easy as changing the way you talk? Reorienting your language can help change your life. Think about the different Facebook status that you come across. Some of the negative status that you read over and over again are by the same people. Their cynical and negative nature comes across in most aspects of their lives. As you read this, you may even decide you are that person. There is no judgement here, but just take note that the people who try to be positive (not overly) and tempered have an overall better outlook on life, that stems from their words, into their thoughts, out in their actions, and across in their Facebook status. They might not be skinnier, smarter, or better. It may just be that the language they use creates groundwork for a more positive outcome; you have to be willing to change your words.
Enlist this new set of standards in your language:
1. Say Goodbye to Can’t, Don’t, and Never
2. Be cautious with Always and All (extreme words make us feel worse and defeated)
3. Use Self-Affirmations (I am good the way I am, I am happy to be me, I can be successful)
4. Eliminate self-judgement (don’t analyze yourself in the mirror)
5. Take non-judgmental stances (the more we critics others, the harder it is to have positive words)
All types of relationships exist in our culture. One of the most interesting are romantic relationships. All romantic relationships go through times of trial. It is in these times of trial that we are able to gauge whether or not our heart is invested in the relationship. It is after these times of trial that two people may have decided to keep going. When you keep going, there are still going to be struggles.
Although there is not one common thought for how to deal with struggles, I am a big fan of positive psychology. Now this field is a relatively new field, coming into use in 1998. It is meant to compliment tradition psychology in understanding how positive relationships, situations, and life can benefit the individual and the relationships around the individual.
I used to think that venting was a great way to dispose of the negative happenings of the day. However, studies show that venting does not increase our tolerance and acceptance of a situation, it increases our irritation.
I bring this thought into motion, on the discussion of relationships, because I want to give you tools and ideas to increase the happiness in your relationship. How to make your relationship better is easy. Try some positive thought activities to improve your mood and the relationships well-being:
- Surround Yourself with Positive People. We feed off the of the company we keep. Maybe it is time to evaluate whose moods might just feel draining.
- Exercise and Eat well. Exercise releases endorphins within the Brain. The Brain is where all our thought is sifted through and processed. Eating well causes the right chemicals to be produced and the correct vitamins to get absorbed.
- Speak Right. Use positive talk when you are talking with people. Be encouraging and offer support and happy thoughts.
- Try to Find the Good. Try to find the good in things. At work, school, and with people. Look at every situation for the good it offers and the opportunities it brings.
Once positive thinking begins to take place, it will be routine for your thought patterns to fall from negative to positive. Lucky for us, like communication, positive thinking is also something that can be learned.