– Mohandas K. Gandhi
Gandhi was a wise man. The power of language and our thoughts will influence our feelings and actions. Think about it. Three things often go together; our actions, our feelings, and our thoughts. What you say or do has the power to dictate how you feel or think about something. Our mindset can influence our emotions. How cool is that? We can influence our emotions.
One of the greatest lessons I have learned and now teach, is that have influence in how we feel about things. That puts us in a better mindset for coping with struggles or maintaining successes.
Here are some quick tips to enlisting this new positive standard into your language.
1. Say goodbye to words like can’t, don’t, and shouldn’t.
2. Be cautious with always, never, all and none (extreme words make us feel defeated).
3. Use Self-Affirmations (I am good the way I am, I am happy, I am successful).
4. Eliminate self-loathing. Try to give yourself grace. When we feel poorly or have poor feelings about ourselves it leaks into other aspects of our lives. Notice what is going on with yourself but try not to judge it. I often tell people to use the word, just. This is just a setback. I am just working through something. When you take away the power of words, you take away the power they have over you, your thoughts, and your feelings.
5. Take non-judgmental stances. The more we critics others, the harder it is to have positive words. When we take negative stances on things, ideas, or people it rises our emotions for worse. Criticism is for worse. When we take a positive or neutral stance it is for better. Inspire and encourage others, listening and be non-judgemental.
6. Reconnect with yourself. We live in a busy, beautiful world. It is important to find clarity in your heart and mind to practice a positive mindset and incorporate them as a part of your life.
Gandhi was a wise man, and he was also a practicing man. You have to practice and incorporate ways to be mindful in your every day life. The power of positive takes practice and patience. You have the power to inspire and influence.
With more and more technology and faster ways to get anything these days, we are also quick to throw in the towel on our relationships. We are a society of trade-ins and trade-ups looking for the next best model. The proof is in the pudding. You want more, faster, and different, but as soon as you trade in for a new model, your next goal will be the next trade-in.
We are quick to leave or to make way for a new model when problems begin. However, if problems begin in a relationship, most likely regular oil-changes and tune-ups were not done. You want to come out with a beautiful thing that runs well and maintains life, then you have to be willing to take proper care of it. As I quoted yesterday and a wise friend of mine said, “I find happiness because I look for it, not because it finds me.” You have to put in time, effort, and care to make a great relationship. Great relationships are not just handed out. Great relationships are made when two people find a way to see the good in one another, to put in effort, and to love with patience and to learn in that love.